God, why can't I stop thinking about this topic, brought up in the How Men Flirt thread? So here's a new thread devoted entirely to that controversial phrase: "You're hot." I wanted to agree, and say that I can't fucking stand people walking up to me and saying "You're hot." But then as I read the other responses, I felt really guilty writing that response. Apparantly I should be flattered that guys come up to me in a bar to tell me this. I should give them a medal for their gallant courage or something, and swoon at the compliment. But, why? Being told I'm hot doesn't make you interesting in the least. And, conceit be damned, but it really doesn't tell me anything I don't already know.

Sure, I'll admit it. I know I'm hot. I also know that it's a conscious effort., and it's something that's synchronized with current and local faggot standards. And if I wanted to, I could look reallllly different. There's things that go into my look, like precision shaving with emphasis to my bone structure, the right haircut, color, product, the right tattoos and piercings, the right amount of tan, working out at my gym, what I wear, how I carry myself, the kind of photographs I've allowed to be on my tribe profile, and the photos I didn't put on there, even make-up. Oh yea, there's make-up involved. You can't see it, and that's the point, but it's there.

The point is, me being hot doesn't so much reflect on me. It reflects on a whole lot of stuff I do. Stuff which I did in the past when I started in the adult industry, stuff I stopped doing for a while and got very different comments, then stuff I started doing to work in the industry again. It's part of my job to look this way.

But, coming up to me and telling me your opinion on how I look right now in the positive will get the exact same response as if you came up and said:

"Hey, you're not so attractive" I think I'd have to look at you and say "OK . . . (and then what?)" I mean, where are ya going with this? Attractive, not attractive, who cares? What's your name? What's my name? What makes us interesting as people? What are your dirty secrets, and twisted fetishes? What's going to make me go "Awwwwww" ? Then again--there is that one exception.

The one exception is the dirty pervy motherfucker who comes up and says "You're hot" but the translation in his eyes is "I don't care if you're flattered by that or not, I just want an excuse to bend you over, spit on my meat, and shove it in." In that case, I occassionally have to acquiesce.