Married men, fuck them or not?

but your fucking him anyway so why does it matter? If you were really concerned about this why would you even begin to start this up with him? It's a bit too little too late.

You get bonus points for making a post complaining about how all gay men are shallow and afraid of committment, and then immedietly post that you're having sex with a married man :)

If you don't like being the "home-wrecker slut", then stop being the home wrecker slut. If you don't feel right having sex with a married man, stop having sex with a married man. I'm making no judgment, just pointing out the obvious. You are thinking with your heart and acting with your dick, much like the men you described that you dislike. That seems a bit hypocritical.

Of course, if the wife is aware that you and your married man are fucking each other and she is ok with that....ENJOY!

And I don't mean to be harsh on you, Carlos, but you stated your "ethics" in your post, but are not following through with the acts that make them valid. Just a thought.

heh. my gut reaction is that its kind of hot. my judgemental reaction is that they're pathetic closet cases. my imagination says its almost like fucking a straight dude and nothing is hotter than fucking straight dudes. especially with kids imho. something about a guy with kids is hot to me. so virile. kind of makes their cum seem more powerful and significant.

oh right but no its not ok. hot but not ok.

I met a guy through a boot fetish site who actually lives close to me. Found out he was a professor at the local university. Not immediately my type but he ended up being a pretty good kisser. Nearing the end of our second "get together" he says something like "If only I could live this kind of life..." I asked what he meant and he said, "Oh, I'm married." We talked for a little while about it and he didn't want to give up the "life" of a socially established professional. I told him that we could be friends but I wouldn't be his excuse for cheating on his wife.

Well, I ran into him from time to time...sometimes with his wife who is an "important person" in the university administration. Then, about a year ago I see him with his wife and he won't even make eye contact with me. And then I find out that his wife has found out that he's fucking guys but they decide to stay living together.

Finally, a few weeks ago he shows up at my house telling me that he's getting a divorce and he wants to "be gay." I really want to support this guy for finally dealing with some of the issues, but, you know what? It's a kind of drama I can live without. I'll get my drama on TV--at least there are commercial breaks.

Telling of a man who has to contemplate the question. But, so it goes. The answer is no. To do it is one thing, but not to know wrong is wrong is a spiritual red flag, dude.

My answer to that is that I may be broke, but I aint brokeback!

I have definitely had more relationships with married men, or men who were supposed to be "straight" , than I've had with Gay men. Some have been secretly Gay, and some are truly hetero, but they like men too. ( I guess you'd call them "bi", but they tend to call themselves "straight".) The Kinsey scale covers a lot of territory. Anyway, you seem to be more interested in the moral aspects of extra-marital sex, than the underlying causes. So here is my moral take on the subject:

A lot of Gay men are married to women for the obvious reasons.... I don't feel bad at all about sleeping with them. They are seeking something they can't get at home, and if they can go out and get laid, and still have a happy hetero home life, that's the lifestyle they've chosen. It's actually their marriage that's immoral, not the affairs.

I try to never sleep with Gay men who are involved or "married" to other men. In that case, I would be interfering in a viable relationship. That offends me morally, but I guess there could be exceptions.

Whether or not to have sex with a married man is a simple matter. Either you do it or you don't, and it's over in an hour. Falling in love with a married man is just an invitation to disaster. It doesn't end when he goes home to his spouse, and you can't just wash it off. I wouldn't ever consider a serious romantic involvement with a married man. Playing around is one thing, divided loyalties are another. It's not a moral issue. If you fall in love with a married person, you are competing with the spouse for time and affection, and somebody's bound to get hurt.

I NEVER fuck married or bi guys, I find them a huge turn-off.